Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Back in the Saddle

At the office. Mariko made me a beautiful sign.

There was only one start to my sabbatical – getting on a plane 10+ months ago and flying to Italy for what turned out to be an adventure of a lifetime (or at least my life so far!)  There have been a few endings to my sabbatical, but Monday, the sabbatical truly ended with my return to work. 

The first ending was leaving my adopted city of Firenze and heading back to Toronto.  Only 6 weeks left to Sept 10 – my official “return-to-work” day.  The second ending was coming back from Chicago/Saugatuck in mid-August, where I looked ahead and there were NO travel plans in my future.  A kind of reverse countdown had begun – only 3 weeks before I went back to work.  The third ending was Sunday night of the Labour Day weekend, when driving back from Geoffrey and David’s cottage near Kingston meant that only 1 week remained.  The final ending was last Saturday night, travelling home from Cape Breton and Halilfax, where I had been for 4 days celebrating the life of my dear Aunt Margie (she lived to be 99!) Then, it was only 1 day to go.

While you might think the transition from a planned leave of absence back to full time work would be jolting, it has actually been smoother than I expected.  It helped to be going back to The Princess Margaret Cancer Centre; back to my team, my office, and a truly great fundraising organization filled with exceptionally talented and dedicated people.

It also helped to have enough time between re-entry back to North America, and re-entry back to work.  All the culture-shock of not being in Firenze, Italy, Europe had dissipated. I had lots of time to figure out that my morning cappuccino at my local bar was not to be had; that I needed a new gym, and the food and wine didn’t quite taste the same now.  I had visited the office a few weeks back – to prove I was still alive AND coming back to work, so that gave me some time to tell stories and reconnect with my “work family.” That visit also took the edge off physically going to the office, something I was consciously avoiding.

But mostly, going back to work was relatively easy because it was the right time to go back. The few “goals” I had for my sabbatical were achieved; the summer was over; and I realized that I actually like working too much to dread the daily journey to the office. That may change, but for now, the important work of raising money to conquer cancer continues anew.  It feels good to be back in the saddle.

Friday, September 7, 2012

Home, Again…Then Saugatuck


The Cloud in Millenium Park, Chicago, August 2012
I flew home from Firenze on Tuesday, July 31, exactly 3 weeks ago today (Aug 21'12). And it was time to come home.  The weather was very very hot in July (there were only 5 days where the daytime temperature was under 30ÂșC!) and the city was starting to shut down for the August holidays. There were only a few regulars at my gym; the locals that I had come to recognize on the streets were absent, and the tourists had truly taken over the Centro.

The flight home deserves its own little blog post (stay tuned), but for the first 5 days back, I think I just stared at the walls of my apartment and felt angry to be surrounded by so many people.  The next 5 days were all about unpacking my personal belongings from my locker and preparing to visit my friend Brandi from Chicago. 

Lake Street Commons B&B, Saugatuck, Michigan
 Before Brandi left Firenze, we had organized a 4-day reunion in Saugatuck, Michigan, which took place last week. Saugatuck is a beautiful little resort community on the eastern shores of Lake Michigan, and is a mini-Provincetown for the Chicago set.  Brandi had been back in North America since the beginning of July so she was used to not living in Firenze. On her return though, she observed that the pace was quicker in North America, people talked louder, they were fatter than Europeans, and there was an intensity to life here that is just not present in most of Europe.  On all counts, I concur.

Brandi, in our kichen.
Our reunion was just that, a reunion, and very different from the “daily-ness” of being stranieri (foreigners) together in a place we both came to love.  Brandi and I did many things together in Italy, but surprisingly, we didn’t reminisce that much.  I think the intensity and uniqueness of the whole Firenze experience is so deeply personal that any attempt to “re-live it” is to diminish it somehow.  So we stayed in the moment, and enjoyed each other’s company as I knew we would.

Brandi, on Douglas Beach, August 2012

Seeing Brandi and spending time in Saugatuck was, in many ways, the end of my sabbatical and my Florentine adventure.  Even though I have three weeks left before I head back to work, there is a lot to tidy up (like finishing this blog), friends to re-connect with, and fresh new starts to begin.  Saying arrivederci at the Midway airport to Brandi was bittersweet because she’s going back in September and I’m not!  But it   was not a good-bye, just a “see you later.”  Kind of what I felt when I boarded the plane to come home.
What is not to like about fresh Blueberry Pie!

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

The Trip Home


The alarm sounded at 04:00hrs, but I did manage to get 6 hours of sleep my final night in Firenze.  Kendra and I went out for a farewell dinner the night before at my local hangout – I Ghibellini, and my final walk was down to the River Arno at Ponte alle Grazie. I was clutching the lock I had used at the gym.  There is a tradition in Italy of young couples fixing locks to bridges to show their undying love for each other. On many bridges, you’ll see long chains of locks locked together, often with names and dates painted on them.  While I was not in love, I thought it fitting to attach my gym lock to the Ponte alle Grazie as a sign that Florence had captured my heart. It was the one physical momento that I had lived there – existent on the bridge until the locks get cut off, or maybe not.  Either way, it was my way of saying goodbye to the city.

At precisely 05:00hrs, my cab arrived and 20 minutes later, I was at the airport for a 06:30hrs flight to Frankfurt and a 10:30 flight to Toronto.  Everything was going smoothly until we got to the end of the runway and the steering computer for the front wheels malfunctioned. Back to the terminal for a reset, and we were off – 1 hour behind schedule.  At this point, I was resigned to the fact that I would probably miss my connection to Toronto. But Luftansa pulled out all the stops in Frankfurt for connecting passengers to Toronto and San Fransisco, and we had our own little shuttle bus to the departure terminal.

With 30 minutes to spare, I made the Toronto flight, which was full and uneventful and the nine hours seemed to fly by (pun intended!)  It did not really feel like I was going home.  Rather, it felt like I was going for a visit to Toronto to see all my friends.  Passing through the airport felt strangely new, and remarkably familiar, which is how I felt for the first week back in Toronto.

Barb Track had offered to pick me up, but a severe thunderstorm had closed down the airport shortly after we landed.  Nobody was going anywhere, and nothing was getting unloaded from the airplanes including luggage. Three-and-half hours later, things started moving again. By this time, I had sent Barb home (since she’d waited long enough – thank you Barb!) and I was sure I could deal with my luggage and bike by myself and get home safely in a limo.  I finally made it back to my apartment at 6pm - 20 hours into the day.

Fresh off the plane - July 31, 2012
@ Zucca with Lawrence (front left) and gang

The day, however, was not done.  My good friend Lawrence Bennett was celebrating his 70th birthday that night and I could not miss the party.  So, I showered, changed my shirt and off I went for celebratory cocktails.  Cocktails turned into dinner at Zucca, an Italian restaurant uptown at Yonge and Eglinton.  By this point I didn’t really know what time it was, but it was sure fun to see my friends again and regale them with stories from my Italian adventure.

 When my head hit the pillow at midnight, I had been awake for 26 hours, travelled 7,061 kilometres (4,388 miles) through 6 time zones, two continents, three countries, and it felt good to be home.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Week 39 – Saying Arrivederci

Firenze, from the Campanile

The final week of my time in Firenze was bittersweet. It was incredible to think that my “stay” was coming to an end.  Had I really just spent nine full months living abroad in Bella Italia?  It felt like I had just arrived yesterday! But the tasks at hand in preparing to leave were making me sad because I had to say goodbye to the people and places I had to come to love in the city I chose to call my home.

The weather remained hot in late July, so preparing to leave took place in the mornings and late afternoons, and ran smoothly thanks to the “run sheets” I developed (thank you Geoffrey C!) which itemized my days and tasks needing completion.  I edited my wardrobe down to two large suitcases, and the lovely cleaning lady at Cesarino became the recipient of a lot of my clothes. She was a divorced mother of three from Tunisia so things would come in handy for her growing son.  There were also a few trips to the charity clothing bin down the street.  I cleaned the apartment from top to bottom; brought my bike to the bike shop to get dismantled and boxed for shipping, and went through a shoebox full of stuff I had collected over the months. I left behind my guide books along with some maps for the next tenants so they could benefit, as I had, from the resident library in the apartment.

I was not quite finished seeing everything Firenze had to offer, and there were a few things left on the sightseeing to-do list I had made at the beginning of June.  One morning I walked to the top of Giotto’s Campanile at the Duomo because I couldn’t bear to think that I had stared at the tower for so long but had never ventured up.  Finished in 1359, the bell tower has stood like a faithful sentinel in the Piazza del Duomo sounding its bells on the hour for 653 years. The trip up made me sweat, but the views were spectacular and different, and it was interesting to see the tower’s interior up close. It was worth every step.


Giotto's Campanile, Firenze, July 2012
 
Also on my list was the Church of Santissima Annunziata in Piazza SS Annunziata.  I had walked by this unassuming church (on the outside at least) many times and now was the time to venture inside.  While most “famous” churches have a few masses during the day, SS Annunziata is a going concern with mass ever hour until 13:00hrs.  I had come to be quite respectful of not visiting churches when a mass was underway, so my visit was wedged between the end of one mass and the start of another.  While the outside might have been bland in comparison to say, Santa Croce, it was spectacular on the inside and filled with fabulous Renaissance artwork.  The chapels along the nave were connected to one another by a series of doorways, so you could walk to the altar without interrupting the congregation. SS Annunziata was a late “find” but a true Florentine jewel.

By now, the Galleria delgi Uffizi really had become my local art gallery and it deserved one last visit.  In late June, a bunch of new galleries finally opened up on the first floor (in the wing that was damaged by a mafia car bomb in 1993) along with the Tribuna on the second floor (the renovation of which is spectacular.)  I went late one afternoon, because the crowds were now getting unbearable, and visited all my favourite paintings.  I had read enough and see enough to know the Medici lineage fairly well, so all the portraits on the 2nd floor hallway finally made sense and had more meaning to me.  Similarly with a lot of the Renaissance painters and their work; Bronzino continued to be my favourite painter and Giambologna my favourite sculptor, so I lingered a little longer in the gallery with “my” Bronzinos saying goodbye to each one of them – admiring their exceptional execution and truly timeless beauty.

Saying goodbye to the people I had come to see and know was an iterative and deliberate process.  When I had my hair cut for the final time by my barber, Gigi, I told him that I was leaving for Canada the next week. Like a bunch of the Florentines I had regular interaction with, Gigi knew little about me except I didn’t speak Italian very well, but was a regular and faithful customer. He carefully explained that he was going to close his shop for the month of August and made a point of telling me when the shop would open up again. Then he asked if I was going for a vacation and for how long. In my very bad Italian I explained I was returning home for good.  His response was a natural one: Vero? (truthfully?) and When will you be back? I laughed and said I didn’t know – perhaps next Spring. I gave him a larger-than-normal tip, we shook hands, and my first goodbye was done.

The barristas at La Loggia where I had cappucino and a cornetto nearly every morning were next. Over my final two days, I learned (because I finally got up the nerve to ask) the names of the women behind the bar: Veronica, a short dark-haired young woman, and her colleague Mary, who was a slightly taller brunette.  I wrote a thank you card to each one of them and enclosed 50 as a tip.  That gesture was unexpected and they were delighted and appreciative, but it only worked out to a 10 cent tip per visit which I thought was the least I could do.  Like Gigi, they asked when I was coming back, and like good Florentines, they didn’t make any big fuss about my departure – they just said goodbye and carried on about their business. I was going to miss seeing them every morning.

My final day at the gym was the day before I left, so I packed up two bottles of nice chianti for Riccardo and Costanza and presented both with their parting gifts and handwritten thank you cards. I had seen Costanza and Riccardo at the front desk of the gym nearly every day for 9 months, and because they both spoke better English than my Italian, we conversed regularly. Like the gym itself, and one of the trainers there, Marco, they became touchstones for me - friends, guides, and people I said ciao to when I ran into them on the street or in a shop. They helped me feel like a local, even though they knew I wasn’t.  But in some way, now I was a local because everyone seemed a bit shocked that I was actually leaving.

The most heartfelt goodbye was on my final night and that was with Mrs. Civai.  Mrs. Civai lived alone in the apartment below me and was a lovely lady in her mid-seventies. She was considered “family” by my landlords and I was instructed to treat her well.   When I first moved in, I bought her a flowering plant, and left it by her door with a note introducing myself. Later that day, she came up to introduce herself, and for 9 months, we saw each other regularly in the hallway of the apartment, on the street, or at the market.  She had an impeccable sense of style and never went out without looking her best.  She seemed pleased to hear about my adventures and travels, and was always up to date on who was visiting me.  And in that reserved Florentine way, she shared details of her daily life that she thought I should know, and nothing more.

Mrs. Civai was the recipient of a bag of food I couldn’t bear to throw away and two bottles of wine. When I made my delivery, she invited me into her apartment (a first) and we went through each item sharing a bit of a story on each. I learned more about Mrs. Civai in the 15 minutes it took to empty the shopping bag than I had in the previous 9 months of regularly seeing her.  It was a life lesson for me – and part of being a stranieri (foreigner).  We both shed a few tears and hugged a lot when saying goodbye and I was sad to be leaving her behind. But I was happy to have had her as my friend and neighbour. It really made living at Via Giovan Battista Niccolini 8 my home away from home.


Via Giovan Battista Niccolini 8, Firenze
It is interesting that I do not have any pictures of the people I saw most frequently.  Perhaps taking their pictures would have meant that they were less significant figures in my Florentine life – needing a photo because I might not remember who they were or what they looked like. Maybe I just never thought to do it. Whatever the reason, their faces are etched in my memory and can be easily and fondly recalled in my mind’s eye.